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If you’ve just started seeing a good guy, keep the details to yourself. Your girlfriends may mean well, but they could sabotage your new relationship if you aren’t careful. Sure, your friends care about you and want the best for you, but they may not be as happy for you as you would expect, especially if they’re still single. Here are 5 ways your friends could be keeping you single without even realizing it.
I remember back when I met my current long-term boyfriend. I told my best friend how much potential I thought our relationship had and she kept saying, “I would take it slow if I were you. You’ve been hurt before.” She saw me get burned several times, and she didn’t want to see me get hurt again. I knew that she was just trying to protect me, but I also wanted her to acknowledge the fact that I was happy and congratulate me about finally having met someone I thought was worthwhile. But her overprotective tendencies got in the way of her well wishes.
Let’s face it. If your girlfriend has been single for a while and hasn’t had much luck in the dating department, she may not be so pleased to find out that you’re happily seeing somebody. Just try to remember that your girlfriend doesn’t have anything against you; her jealousy stems from the fact that she feels like something – or someone – is lacking her life. Put yourself in her shoes and you’ll realize how devastating it is to watch every one of your gal pals pair up with someone when you’ve been single for years. Try to find a way to help your friend so that she can funnel her jealousy
I used to go out with my girlfriends a lot when I was single because I had to in order to meet guys! And while I do love to meet up with my friends to chat over coffee and go shopping, I rarely make it to girls’ night anymore. Frankly, I don’t really even see why I should do the whole girls’ night thing since I’m taken! What’s the point of dressing sexy and not getting to bed till 5am if I’m not out to find guys? I’d prefer having a Sex in the City marathon at a friend’s house, giving each other pedicures, and eating popcorn.
“Jennifer always puts her husband first. Whatever happened to female friendship?” said my friend Lacey about her BFF since high school who recently got married. Lacey feels like she’s been replaced, but isn’t that what relationships are all about? I wouldn’t think much of a friend who ditched her partner every night to go hang out with the girls. The point of marriage is to commit to being with someone forever and making that person your number one priority in life, at least till the kids come along. If you have a friend who seems to have a problem playing second to your man, tell her you want to spend some time apart until she is ready to accept that fact that your significant other is going to be your number one priority, at least some of the time.
Imagine this: you invite your guy to go out to dinner with you and your girlfriends and after he goes home, your friends laugh about how awkward he is and how strange his laugh sounds. You feel bummed because your friends overlook how funny, sweet, intelligent, and caring your partner is and focus on his faults instead. It’s inevitable that your friends will judge your partner based on what they want, and not what’s right for you. And eventually, their negative opinions may end up tainting yours, too.
You may have to distance yourself from your gal pals for a while in order to keep your relationship going in the early months, but you don’t necessarily have to break off these friendships altogether. As long as you set some ground rules and avoid the above scenarios, your friendships are sure to evolve to the point that they complement your relationship with your significant other rather than get in the way of it.